We've all had our share of heartaches and heartbreaks, but the nicest part of taking that romantic chance is trying again. Falling in love is one of the most exciting emotions we have to share with someone. When you've dusted yourself off, and are ready to give romance another go, there are several things that you can keep in mind in starting a new relationship. It's better to be prepared and put some thought into it before jumping in blindly, so here are a few tips to consider:
- Take your time, and don't be over-eager for things to be an over-night success. Every relationship takes time and energy on both sides. Granted, it feels so natural, so 'right' when you're starting most new relationships- but people are people. They need the chance to be themselves and breathe. Rushing in can backfire and wind up suffocating your new romance- it could even push them away. Which is the opposite of the desired effect you're looking for.
- No one wants to repeat history, especially if you've had a bad relationship. In starting a new one, though, you have to keep positive and open-minded. It's easy to fall into the comparison game of similarities between exes and the new romantic possibilities, but being super gun-shy and looking for problems can create new ones. New relationships need to start with trust and respect for the other person, in order for those deeper feelings to grow.
- Taking your time in getting physical is strongly recommended: instead of jumping into the sack, actually get to know the person you're in the relationship with. Going to bed with someone too early in the relationship can complicate your new relationship or make it fizzle out quickly. Anticipation, appreciation of the person and letting your emotions get attached all feed into a healthy relationship. And one that will continue, for the long-term.
- Give them their space, even if neither of you want it. Being able to miss the person creates the nice atmosphere of looking forward to seeing them. A mistake many new couples make early on: spending every waking, breathing moment with the Other. It creates friction and resentment by becoming a 'We' too quickly.
It can be difficult, or even seem impossible to keep your head out of the clouds when you've fallen in love or are falling for someone. If you'd really like the new relationship to build into a keeper, then remembering a few (rational) tips will help. Lastly, don't forget to enjoy yourself. New relationships should be fun, which is why we continue dating, isn't it?