As if it wasn’t enough to get through the early dating stages without blowing it, it definitely doesn’t get any easier from here onwards. Millions of things could still collide with a relationship that’s otherwise quite solid, leaving the two of you in a wretched state.
Of course, a number of these problems could be worked out quite easily. However, choosing to deal with whatever type of relationship killer requires a lot of careful thought about the value of the relationship to you and whether or not it’s worth the trouble. Sometimes, in spite of all that hard work put into getting there, it would have been a better idea to simply cut off the losses and go on.
No one can literally list down all the possible things that could screw up your true love story. However, we can warn you about the things that are most likely to cause the demise of your coupledom. Here’s our list of the top 7 relationship killers:
7. Friends and Family
Family and friends make up a huge part of your and your partner’s life. Not gelling in well with the people that share your mate’s life can often push your relationship to breaking point. It is almost impossible to adore everyone that she knows. However, you can maintain ‘friendly’ connections with the people that are closes to her life, such as her best friends and sister. It’s important if you want to keep the relation boat afloat.
Remember the long-winded disagreements about politics with her dad that turned quite serious? Or how you can’t stand being in the same room as her best friend? She’s going to need to choose at some point. No guarantee that she’ll take you side.
6. Too High Levels of Comfort
After couples have been together for a bit, they tend to become too comfortable around the other. Some will become like friends, instead of lovers. Intimacy falters. Routine and lifestyle becomes too boring. That’s when they start to let everything slide. Sex tends to fall of your agenda completely. Before you know it, one of you has become the person that’s stopping the other one from getting into a relationship with someone else.
5. Different Aims and Aspirations
As time passes, couples can start to drift away from each other if they are not careful. This may be because of no communication because of other things like careers taking precedence or it might be a symptom that the relation simply isn’t working out.
If the two of you are chasing different goals, like wanting to place roots where you’re located while your partner chases promotions that involve re-locations, there is clear jeopardy in the future.
4. The Past
People that want to live with their past often find it practically impossible to really move on. If either of you insists on comparing the present relationship to their former ones, the future doesn’t seem too good. While it is a good thing to learn from mistakes of the past, it’s never a good idea to treat them as blue prints for other relations. What you’ve got now is different from all other relationships you’ve previously had. Allow it to freely grow – away from your previous screw-ups.
3. Moving Way Too Fast
A healthy relationship doesn’t need to be egged on. It will progress in a completely natural fashion. While not progressing at a uniform speed all the time, relationships tend to move forward as both become more comfortable in each other’s companionship. It’s an instinctive, unspoken kind of thing. However, some seem to lack the basic instincts. Rushing to make your relation blossom can turn it into something neither of you are ready for… not just yet.
2. Independence/Dependence
Maintaining the correct balance between independence and dependence is quite tricky. Humans tend to feel smothered when they get too much of something. If the couple gets to a point where they’ve got nothing but each other in their lives, it’s time to back off a bit. Otherwise, one may start to feel that they need their space and resent the relationship for robbing them of their freedom.
1. Cheating
Nothing else can kill a relationship better than cheating. It’s the ultimate venom. Most couples will never survive such an ordeal. Initial betrayal felt when you find out your partner’s been cheating on you can leave your bonding dead and cold as stone while those bed sheets are cosy warm still.
Even if, working together as a couple, you manage to work past this bout of cheating, your relationship’s future doesn’t look too bright from here onwards. All that trust and honesty has had its brains blown out. Regardless of how many promises are made, no indiscretions will exist. Each partner naturally expects the other to fall in bed with a third person any day.