How Can I Get From Friend To Boyfriend?/ Friend Zone To Romance Zone: Making the Leap

You've got the girl of your dreams in your life. She's everything you've ever wanted: cute, sexy, funny and smart. There's only one problem: you're just friends. It's been that way from the start, and you want to make a change now. What should you say, and how do you say it? How do you even bring up the topic? What if she says no, and you lose your friendship? There are a lot of things to consider when you want to get out of the friend zone. The main one being: are you sure you're ready to take that chance, or can you go on the way things are?

You need to make a plan on how you're going to present the idea and yourself. It might be a good thing to prepare a short script, saying exactly what you want her to know. Practice saying it a few times, so that you'll feel confident when the time comes. Choose an outfit you feel comfortable in, that you think looks good on you. You could even choose the place- somewhere quiet, with few distractions and not many people.

When you feel you're ready, try working it naturally into the conversation. If you really want out of that friend zone, you'll need to be completely honest with her. That doesn't mean that you should just spring it on her, and hope for the best reaction. You could start by telling her the things you like about her, or about your friendship and then tell her you would like to move into the boyfriend zone. One thing you should keep in mind is that her first reaction might be shocked, and you should give her some time to think about it before deciding.

Have yourself mentally prepared for either a yes or a no answer: it's tough for a lot of people to make the switch from friend to boyfriend. If she says no, accept it graciously. You may have to make a decision, whether you want to stay in the friendship or not. It's not such a great idea to stay in the friendship if you'll always have that hope or that expectation, and even if you do remain friends it might have changed the friendship.

On the other hand, if she says she's willing to give it a go, don't rush in. Take it the same way you would any new relationship. Take your time to get to know each other romantically. It might seem a little awkward at first, but it will get easier. Relationships based on friendships are some of the most lasting and well-balanced romances you can have, because you don't have to start at the beginning. If you succeed in getting out of the friend zone, you could wind up not with just the perfect girl, but the perfect girlfriend. A dream come true.

Making the decision to tell her how you feel- that you want to be more than just friends- is a difficult one to do. It also might be the best romantic decision you'll ever make: either you'll stop torturing yourself by being her friend, or you'll wind up together. It's a win-win situation.